So many ideas floating around in my head and nothing took root, until I searched out this video and inspiration hit.
A home filled with technology with kids who blog, film, photograph and edit most things that go on in their lives. Most people call me crazy. I am. Wonderfully, crazily busy with this life that I have chosen and choose every day.
Raising a Princess
As a girl/young woman, I was led by my heart…straight into a degree in social work and a career in “saving” the world. I volunteered with youth, interned in elementary schools and finally began my “career” working with dually diagnosed adults in a group home.
Fast forward 20 years out of high school, and I have a Master’s Degree of Science, have traveled all over the world working on computer programs, built my own business from the ground up and am head of this crazy house full of gifted and talented kiddos.
Needless to say, I’ve come full circle from pretty, pretty princess to this empowered, I can do anything mom person. And my daughter, wow, she is totally her own person.
We went shopping for basketball shoes the other night…”most basketball players wear this type of socks” and “there aren’t really any girl shorts/shoes at this store” were the words coming out of my mouth. Only to be met by an eye roll from my 9 year old princess, “mom, when have I ever cared about what other’s thought/wore” as she proceeded to pick out what she wanted/needed to be prepared for this new adventure she has chosen for her life.
My heart swells with pride. She truly is her own person.
She is empowered to make her choices and goes in knowing very well that she will have to deal with whatever consequences come – good or bad. She knows I have her back, at all times, but I also force her to stand by her commitments and our mantra has really become “best the best me.”
Recently I found The Libertarian Homeschooler on Facebook…what an inspiration. I wholly encourage you to go LIKE their page. But this post really struck a cord in me:
If I could go back thirteen years I would tell myself these things.
- The less you strive to get your sons to submit to you, the more influence you will have in their lives.
- The less you talk, the more they’ll listen.
- The less you butt in, the more they’ll seek you out.
- Most of the fights you’ll have will spring out of your baggage, not their misbehavior. Try shutting up.
- In terms of learning stuff, bad news: you aren’t that important.
- When they’re little and you don’t manage their environment and they melt down, that’s on you.
- Put away the curriculum. Really.
- Read Montessori again.
- More play time.
- More walks.
- More cooking with them. They want your time.
- Less stuff. It’s making them crazy.
- Less criticism. They’re absorbing it.
- Better to be silent than speak in anger or impatience.
- Relationship with you is what keeps your children safe. Don’t mess it up by demanding they bend their will to yours.
Naturally, I would be too bull-headed to listen.
I know my kids are going to grow up and go out on their own in the not so distant future. That is exactly what I want for them, what I am training them for.
I know my house will be clean and quiet then, my bed will be my own again and things will stay exactly where I put them (if I can remember where that is.)
But right now, I’m raising my Princess “Whatever She Wants to Be” and her brothers to be the absolute “BEST ME” they can be, and I appreciate the inspiration to do that this video seems to remind us of.